About
Date nights save my marriage
The beginning of SavetheDateNight.com
Eight years of marriage, two amazing kids, five years in Singapore and a full-time teaching job – and here I am, writing my very first blog post! My husband and I are in our late 30s, navigating the beautifully chaotic life of expats in Singapore. Somewhere between marking papers, packing school lunches, and trying to keep up with the boundless energy of two young kids, we’ve managed to hold onto one sacred tradition: weekly date nights.
And let me be honest, date night has truly saved my marriage.
Before you roll your eyes or dismiss this as some overly romanticised claim, let me explain. For the last five years, since coming to Singapore, I’ve been religiously documenting our date nights on Facebook—over 140 date nights and counting. From hawker stalls to rooftop bars, cinema trips to adrenaline-fuelled activities, or simply reconnecting over Big Macs, these nights have become the glue that keeps us connected, sane, and yes, HAPPY! 🙂
Now, I’m taking it to the next level with this Save the Date Night blog.
Why this blog?
This blog is, first and foremost, for me—a creative outlet, a fun way to record our weekly adventures, and a diary of memories that I can look back on. But it’s also for anyone out there, in Singapore, who might be feeling like the daily grind is pulling them away from their partner. If even one couple reads this blog and feels inspired to prioritise time together, then I consider that a win.
Because let’s face it: marriage isn’t always easy. Between work stress, kids, and the million little mundane responsibilities that fill our days, it’s all too easy to let your relationship take a backseat. That’s where date night comes in. It’s not about spending loads of money or planning extravagant evenings (though I do enjoy doing both!), but about carving out time every single week to reconnect.
The science behind date nights
I’m not just speaking from personal experience—there’s actual research to back this up. (I’m a science teacher, after all, so I get it—you need more than just my opinion!) Numerous studies have shown that regular date nights improve communication, strengthen emotional bonds, reduce the likelihood of divorce, and—bonus—can even increase sexual satisfaction. Don’t just take my word for it—Google it!
For instance, a 2023 report from the National Marriage Project and the Wheatley Institute (USA) revealed that couples who spend one-on-one time together at least once a week are 14% more likely to report being very happy in their marriages compared to those who don’t. Powerful stuff, right?
And you know what? It’s absolutely true for my husband and me. Our weekly date nights are something we both genuinely look forward to. They remind us why we fell in love in the first place and provide a much-needed escape from the chaos of everyday life. It’s our time to step away from the roles of “mum” and “dad” and just be us.
How it all started
We’ve always loved date nights, but the weekly commitment really took off when we moved to Singapore five years ago. Living in this vibrant city has been such a gift—not only because of the incredible food and endless things to do but because we’ve been lucky enough to have the support of an amazing helper. Having someone we trust to watch the kids has allowed us to make weekly date nights a non-negotiable part of our lives.
We’ve explored so many corners of Singapore, but honestly, there’s still so much left to discover. From the Merlion and Marina Bay Sands to the Supertrees and Satay Street, this city has become the vibrant backdrop to our love story.
That’s why this blog exists—to document our adventures, share ideas, and, most importantly, celebrate the tradition that’s kept our relationship thriving.
What you’ll find here
On Save the Date Night I’ll be posting weekly updates about our date night adventures. I’ll share where we went, what we loved (or didn’t), and maybe even toss in some tips for other couples looking for date night inspiration. From romantic dinners to budget-friendly outings, from classic date ideas to more creative twists, you’ll find a bit of everything here.
But more than that, this blog is about celebrating connection. It’s a reminder that no matter how busy life gets, taking time for each other is worth it.
Who is this for?
This blog is mostly for me—a fun little project to capture memories and fuel my creative spirit. But if you’re tired parents or just a couple trying to keep their relationship alive amidst the craziness of life, I hope you’ll find something here that resonates. Maybe you’ll feel inspired to plan your own date night, or maybe you’ll just enjoy following along on our journey.
The end goal
At the end of the day, my goal is simple: to create a diary of memories that my husband and I can look back on someday. Who knows, maybe this blog will even lead to some fun freebies (a girl can dream, right?). But for now, I’m here to enjoy the ride.
So here’s to date nights, love, and never stopping making time for each other. Whether you’ve been married for one year or twenty, I hope this blog reminds you to Save the Date Night. It might just save your marriage, too.
Let’s do this!
Stacey
